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When booking a treatment please suggest multiple dates and times. That way it is the easiest to find a day and time that suits you.


When you book a Distance Energy Healing, please let him know what city or time zone you are in.


Ralf typically replies within 24 hours to your message, except when he is on a meditation retreat.


With light. With Love. Namaste. Welcome!

 
 
 
 


At the end of the early morning meditation a guy sitting in the front row of the meditation hall shines his little flashlight at the opposite wall where the abbot is sitting. Ajahn Poh, 84 years old and quite agile, is indeed asleep, half slouched-over in meditation pose. The meditators keep sitting patiently because it is custom to wait for the monks to leave first, only then the hour of revitalizing yoga can start. Finally the caretaker of the center shifts some furniture and Ajahn Poh awakes and gracefully walks out of the hall, leaning on his walking stick.


Sleeping is quite an experience. The male dormitories are located directly under the meditation hall, it has a wide door which is always open, and steel bars in the open windows. The bed consists of wooden planks without a mattress. The center is located in the middle of the Koh Samui jungle. There are snakes, scorpions, millipedes, centipedes (the latter ones can bite), loud frogs and carnivorous mosquitoes. The smell of anti-mosquito spray fills the meditation hall, which is completely open on all sides, and the meditators, sitting motionlessly, make easy targets for the mosquitoes. Outside a sign says: “Beware of scorpions. Walk mindfully.” At night the symphony of crickets, frogs, an insect which sounds like a circle saw, and various animals devouring each other, reaches its crescendo with the frantic snoring of some of the guys.


Thus the days go on: sitting meditation, walking meditation (quite delightful in the evening with the sun setting), chanting Buddhist texts and a one hour yoga class. There are great Thai vegetarian meals twice a day, at 9 o’clock and 12 o’clock. It is a silent retreat, so no talking for six days, no telephone, no books. There are Dharma talks by Dhamavidu Bikhu, an Englishman who has been a Theravada Buddhist monk for decades; he is very knowledgeable about the history and workings of Buddhism, and very frank with his ideas about certain practices. He says that he thinks that it must be easier to practice mindfulness outside the monastery, but then he contradicts himself and says that it is good to be a monk in order to have the time and solitude to meditate. He also shares stories about his daily life as a monk.


Compared to a Goenka Vipassana retreat where men and women are completely separated, and don’t even have eye contact, here it is more open, and as the friendly caretaker indicates, ’you can smile at someone’. One wonders who are a couple, who are friends, or what somebody is like as a person. You can learn a lot from small movements and gestures. A friendly push in the line for the yoga mats is the only contact a couple has. But apart from this, it is all about going inside. Dhamavidu Bikhu challenges the meditators by loudly saying ‘Good Afternoon!’ at the beginning of every talk, to which the group of meditators has to quench a natural reply. He talks about different desires, defilements, metta (loving-kindness), society, and teaches a meditation technique which is called anapanasati or ‘the short cut method’. At one point he says: “Buddhism has many ideas for the future of mankind, but we are living in the now.”


Things one learns at the retreat:

° Mindfulness: walking, eating, washing – everything!

° Anapanasati breathing technique, which one can practice anytime.

° Dipabhāvan yoga routine. If you do one hour of yoga everyday for the rest of your life you will always be flexible and well.

° Metta (loving-kindness) (20 minutes): yourself, a close friend/family, a benefactor, someone you don’t know (who thus represents everybody else), your enemy.

° Dharma talk about “the monkey mind”: use anapanasati breathing technique. Doubt, use long breath. Anger, difficult to work with because it lingers on so long, better to not let it happen. Desire for food, think of puke. Sexual desire for a person, think of them dissected, without skin. Negativity, visualize one or two things which make you happy.


It is possible that after a few days you realize that you can do anapanasati during sitting meditation, walking meditation and during everything else that you do that day, and that your mind is quiet. Quiet! In this state, without asking for it, you might suddenly get insights about your life and what you should do.


Many meditation masters say that it is not what happens during meditation that matters, but what happens after. How does one experience the inner and outer world when one has touched this inner peace, this connectedness, this silence? A great calm? Meeting interesting people? Things flow better? Quietness? What has one taken into oneself from this wonderful experience?



To read or to write about meditation is nice, but it is meaningless. The only way to know what meditation is about is to actually do it. Now this doesn’t have to be a long silent retreat, although this might kickstart a life-long habit of meditation, and it is something you naturally might want to try after you have been meditating for a while. Ideally the length of a meditation is somewhere between forty and sixty minutes. This feels right. This is the length most meditation teachers recommend. But for a start you could try ten minutes every morning for a month or so.


Most people would surely benefit from meditating. With the exception of someone who is mentally imbalanced. Now we get to the question ‘Why meditate?’ There is no better answer than to experience it yourself.


The nice thing about meditation is that you can do it regardless of religion or belief system. Most religions and spiritual beliefs actually include meditation in their practice in one form or another. This makes meditation universal. That is not so strange because it is all about calming your mind. Especially in the hectic world of today with all its stress and thousands of choices to make, a person deep down understands that it is a good idea to be calm.


‘So why doesn’t everybody do it?’ The answer is: ‘your ego.’ Your ego does not think that it is a good idea. Your ego believes that meditation is boring and a waste of time. And your ego fears that if meditation makes you calmer it will have less to do, and the ego likes to keep busy.


Your ego makes sure you think incessantly in circles about this or that problem. It worries about the past and the future. The ego is fearful about what could happen to your family, to your city, to your country, to your religion, to your world. It thrives with conflicts and wars, endless weighing of options, it wants you to fit in, it wants you to check continuously how others around you are doing and how to relate to them. Some of these things are good of course, and the ego helps us in certain situations.


Face it, you have 24 hours in a day, you sleep, you work, you drink tea with your friends. There could be time to meditate. See it as a bit of mental yoga, a mental stretch program. Someone said that thoughts are like fluffy clouds in the sky, slowly passing by, and meditation creates more space between these thought-clouds. It is calming.


When you start to meditate your ego will come up with all kinds of hindrances. It likes to do that. But the only way to experience meditation is by doing it. To experience it. Then decide for yourself if you want to continue meditating regularly.


An example of a simple but extremely effective meditation:


Sit on a cushion with a straight back, or sit on a chair with a straight back and your feet flat on the floor. For different ways of sitting and exact descriptions, check any book on meditation.


Your position should be strong and stable, and you should be able to sit in that position without moving for the entire time you decide to sit. When you sit down you might wiggle a little so that you sit upright and comfortably.


Then sit still. Focus on your breathing. That’s all you do. Feel air coming in through your nose and out through your mouth or nose. Don’t force your breathing, breathe naturally. Focus on breathing in and out.


Very soon a thought will come up. This could be any thought. ‘Why am I doing this?’ ‘It is not working’ ‘I have to get the kids to school’ ‘What are we going to eat tonight?‘ ‘What if my friends saw me sitting like this’ ’I have to buy tomato sauce and garlic’ ’Last year we were trekking in the mountains. What a view. The air was so fresh.’ A smile forms on your face. ‘Oh, I am meditating.’


After some time of focusing on your breathing you could again become submerged in a train of thoughts. But when you realize this, you go back to focusing on your breathing, again and again. A meditation teacher said once: ’Let thoughts come and go but don’t serve them tea.’ The more you meditate the easier it will be to stay with your breathing. With practice comes skill.


Thus you meditate until the timer goes off. You can stretch your legs. You might think ‘That went well,’ or ‘I was thinking all the time. I focused on my breathing only a few times’. But now the interesting thing happens: even if you think you did a lousy job meditating you probably feel calmer anyway. And you might experience a moment during the day when a calm comes over you in a situation when you normally would have become agitated. It’s worth a try.


Good luck.



Eat.co is a vegan brasserie anno 2019, located just outside the Koh Phangan harbor, where steamboats and speed boats pour out endless streams of bronzed tattooed youngsters. They are mostly mischievous, full of desires, landing on this tropical island for the full moon party, or to its cleverly concocted half-moon party. There are also calm tantra-yoga-meditation-massage-kundalini-breathing young women and guys. The first group packs in songthaews, a taxi pick-up truck, with their huge backpacks on the roof, off to God knows where, laughing and screaming. The latter group veers to Eat.co like a magnetic attraction. So does Zach.


Mind you, this is Thailand, with excellent pad thai (rice noodles with beansprouts, scallion, peanuts and sauce), dragon fruit shakes, fried rice with seafood, tom yam kung, and spicy papaya salad. In this brasserie there are crafted wooden tables, plastic vines hang from the ceiling, and there is an assortment of Yogi teas. The waitress, with Mediterranean looks and long black hair, occasionally zonks off into some distance space. Zach wonders if it is a depth of calm which can be uncomfortable when meeting someone like that in the middle of the hectic world, but which is, of course, a good thing here. She hands him the menu which includes everything ranging from sourdough bread with turmeric humus to ‘three gluten free pancakes with coconut yoghurt and berries’. Yummy!


Looking around at the amount of youngsters and people, Zach is reminded of the fact that there are twice as many people living on this planet then when he was born. And that it has never been as easy and affordable to travel as now, something the people of Venice, Barcelona, and Amsterdam could tell you more about. Zach realizes that he is doing his part. Sadly, it doesn’t feel very much like the Thailand Zach loves. Surely such mass tourism does change a place.

Luckily, a few days later Zach does find genuinely friendly Thai people on the island, living at some distance from from all tourism.


Zach likes the focus on veganism and health on Koh Phangan and in other parts of the world. He finds this a positive development: more awareness of your life, (‘you can choose how to live your life’), of your body (yoga, raw food, veganism), of your spirit (meditation, religion), and community (social gatherings, courses, dance, tantra). And all that automatically results in more awareness and care of the environment.


A skinny girl sitting at the table beside Zach highlights some sentences with a huge yellow marker on the last pages of Eckart Tolle’s ‘The Power of Now’ which she is reading. “Over 3 million copies sold” it says on the front. Quite impressive.


Goa Trance/Ibiza/Koh Phangan beats, or whatever it is called nowadays, comes flooding out of the speaker. It is one, continuously pumping, low beat which is easy to dance to, and a bit worse to write to, which is what Zach’s neighbor is trying to do, his feet nervously tapping to the beat.


A girl sits with an Apple laptop with a world map case around it, and another girl is swiping on a gold colored iPhone. She wears white earplugs, maybe she doesn’t like the music that eat.co plays, is Skyping or isn't interested in the chattering about veganism, detox or multiple orgasms without touching.


The child of a family has a tantrum about the food, even if it is a plate of waffles with slices of dragon fruit.


A guy is eating mindfully with his eyes closed.


These vegetarian, vegan, tantra, yoga, kundalini breathing people are beautiful. Their skin. The luster in their eyes. The friendly warm smiles.


It starts to rain a little – in January it rains sometimes in the South of Thailand. An elderly woman asks an Israeli girl with white nail polish on her hands and feet, who is eating and simultaneously chatting on Facebook, if she likes her dish. The girl looks up utterly disturbed. Oh, smart-phone world.


While they are making a ‘dirty chai’ at the espresso machine, two girls and three guys sit at two small tables. The guys haven’t ordered anything to eat. It is clear that one of the guys, good looking, strong and well trained, with a huge tattoo of deep water diving in a grotto on his arm, is together with one of the girls. The other two guys nervously look around. They are meat eaters. One of the guys is interested in the other girl, who is larger and who has embarked on a long explanation of a special breathing technique. Zach can only imagine that if they end up going out then she will feel a strong desire to turn him over to the world of no leather, no eggs and nothing that talks, walks or crawls.


On the book shelf lay The Esoteric World of Madame Blavatsky, Osho’s A Cup of Tea, Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand, Lucid Dreaming, The Power of Positive Thinking, Voyager Tarot, and the Healing Code.


Zach’s food comes, it is delicious. Two guys and one of the girls leave. The meat eater immediately starts chatting up the girl. “I heard you talking about this breathing technique,” he says. She smiles broadly. Pamphlets about ecstatic dancing and an upcoming tantra retreat lay on their table. Zach is getting a feeling of everybody standing in a circle holding hands, loving each other.


What a beautiful world Zach has come to!


LOVE. TOUCH. MEDITATION. FREEDOM. HEALING. THAI MASSAGE. SHIATSU. YOGA. TANTRA. GREAT OPEN MINDED AND HAPPY PEOPLE. OPENNESS. HOUSE IN FIJI. THAILAND. ASIA. HOUSE IN SWEDEN. FRIENDS. COMMUNITY. FAMILY. FATHER. CHILDREN. BREATH. GROWTH. NOW. DANCING. BEING HEALTHY AND ALIVE. LONGEVITY. COLORFUL. WARM CLIMATE. BUDDHISM. SPIRITUALITY. LEARNING. TEACHING. WRITING. BOOKS. ART. NATURE. WHOLESOME VEGETARIAN AND VEGAN FOOD. RUNNING. TRAVEL. STRENGTH. ACCEPTING AND WELCOMING CHANGE. JOY. WALKING. MUSIC. EXPLORING. UNIVERSE. ONENESS. EVOLVING. LIVING THROUGH FEARS. BALANCE. POSITIVITY. LOVE.



Quotes


“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.” - Rumi


“Don't try to steer the river.” - Deepak Chopra


”By passion the world is bound, by passion too it is released”

- Hevajra tantra


”Everything changes” - The Buddha


”Recognize what is in your sight, and that which is hidden from you will become plain to you” - The Nag Hammadi Library


“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.” - Eckhart Tolle.


“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi



Payment


Money is energy. It is love. It represents what a product or service is worth to you and others.


The amount of money paid for a treatment creates the expectation for a certain result, rightly so, and yet it is important to be detached from a certain outcome. It is with openness that the treatment, Healing Energy, and anything that might happen before, during, or after the treatment, works best.


Ralf suggests that you pay “With the Heart”. This means that you pay what you are able, or want, for the treatment. 


Of the total amount you pay, part is to pay towards the treatment of the person who comes after you, and part is for Ralf. The amount Ralf receives is for his time, his expertise, his preparation, and that this is how he earns his living. It is a good feeling to receive from the person before you, and for you to give to the person who comes after you.


It is best if you decide on the amount you are going to pay before the treatment, so you don’t have to think about it while you are receiving the treatment. Please pay promptly before, or right after you receive the treatment.


If you don't experience any result, you will get your money back.


If it is difficult for you to decide how much to pay, the suggested amounts are 100€/ 100US/ 160AUD/ 230FJD/ 1000SEK for Energy Healing, Custom Treatment, and Shiatsu, and 120€/ 120US/ 190AUD/  283FJD/ 1200SEK for Thai Massage. For the cost a Group Energy Healing please contact Ralf. Special offer! Distance Energy Healing: 50 Euros, 125 FJD, 500 SEK, 60 USD, 80 AUD.


You can pay by using:


PayPal (preferred): paypal.me/mistymountain1234


Cash (even by mail, and any currency)


Swish: 0702887248 (Annica)


International Bank Transfer (please ask for details)


Ralf can send you a receipt via email (Ralf will use your email only once: only for sending the receipt).


With light. With Love. Namaste.

Experience at Dipabhāvan Meditation Retreat, Thailand.


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About Ralf (full biography)



When Ralf came into this world the first thing he saw was the orange wall of his parent’s cozy bedroom. It was 1972, Eindhoven, the Netherlands. His father worked as a salesman and his mother as a secretary. Soon after, they moved to a nice big house on the Wattstraat. As a baby, Ralf traveled to the then undeveloped Benidorm in Spain. He had a friendly and relaxing early childhood. He got a sister, what a blessing and what a love.


One grandfather was a pioneer of package vacations, and the other grandfather was interested in yoga, IChing, detox and metaphysics. During the week of Ralf’s state exams, this grandfather did a “Moxa” herbal treatment on Ralf’s feet to relax him, which was great and helped Ralf pass his tests.


At the age of 8, Ralf stared at his hands and knew that someday he was going to do something with them. He was interested in dinosaurs and the evolution of mankind. He started to write and to take pictures. Ralf had a strong desire to live in a castle and to be in the forest. A desire which would be fulfilled many years later when he moved to a large house in the Swedish countryside. 


When Ralf was 16 years old he was part of a tight group of friends. He went on his first travel adventure on his own to Barcelona. In a youth hostel there, he met hitchhikers, and having just finished Adam’s Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, Ralf realized hitchhiking was an excellent way to see the world with a great sense of freedom.

He worked on tulip farms and in restaurants.


Ralf moved to Paris, studied, but the romantic artistic appeal of the city was too strong and he was more often found near the palace in Versailles writing poetry, than in school. He greatly enjoyed his freedom, living in a small attic room with a view of L’Arc de Triomphe in the distance. He finished a project of pictures of Everyday Life in Paris.


He studied two years of communication and film studies at Emerson College in Maastricht, an important and transformative period in his life. Great fellow students. Parties. Interesting courses. He studied Comparative Arts at VU Amsterdam. He lived in Amsterdam, but quickly moved back to Maastricht, really stretching the free transportation card issued to students, as he traveled 5 hours by train every study day. With friends he formed an artistic/musical group called ’Circle Around the Zero’. He hitchhiked to Scotland to see if the monster of Loch Ness was there (it wasn’t), and hitchhiked to the Syrian border. He became interested in spirituality.


He founded the communal living apartment ’The Flying Carpet’ which was a great creative space for many people. Better late than never, through a friend who would become his best friend, he met a young woman and fell in love. He moved with her to New Orleans where she studied anthropology. That was a treasured period in his life. Audubon park. Mardi Gras. The bright colors. The mist over the Mississippi River. The majestic houses. Friendly people. He wrote stories. He met people in the coffee houses in the French Quarter. The love ended, but full of life and spirit Ralf went to live on kibbutz Nir Yitzhak, where life was like paradise to him.


Then followed a six month trip to India, where he meditated for the first time in his life, under the Bodhi tree in Bodhgaya, which he afterwards realized was a great and auspicious place to start meditating. In India, he also started to do yoga. At the end of his stay, full of experiences with spirituality, religion, and Indian culture, he contemplated on the beach of Varkala what he should do now. The unexpected answer was ”live in Nijmegen or The Hague, and work in a bookstore”. And so in 1999 he settled in The Hague, a city where he had never been before, and started to work in the American Book Center, which he really enjoyed.


Together with a good friend he was invited to a wedding in Thailand and he loved the country, its people, cultures and food. Before boarding the plane back home Ralf got a Thai massage in one of the many places in Chiang Mai, a little run down business with a fan slowly turning on the ceiling.


Back in the Hague his apartment became an open creative space. His friend recorded the album “Nan” and many friends came and stayed over. He had girlfriends. It was a nice period which abruptly ended when his mother, who lived in The Ivory Coast at the time, suddenly died, followed by his stepfather three weeks later. Emotionally it took a long time to get over this. He quit his job, left The Hague and in 2001 he went on a year-long trip visiting Provence, La Gomera, Finland (invited on a road trip by friends), Eastern Turkey, New York and Washington, DC. At the end of the year Ralf embarked on a long trip to Thailand and Laos. After meeting his friend from New York in Bangkok, Ralf woke up one morning and thought “what the heck am I going to do with my life”? The answer came swiftly: “study Thai massage. You liked that massage so much.’ And so he moved to Chiang Mai and started studying at Mama Nit’s massage school.


One morning a young woman came into the school. She noticed that class was going on and went back outside. Patiently, she sat down with her back to the wall, with the sun shining on her face. When class was finished she enquired about the studies. Ralf knew she was “the one”. A few days later, after a hike up Doi Suthep where she and her best friend sang songs, Ralf and Annica kissed in the Reggae Bar. They found great love and companionship.


The next winter Ralf studied Thai massage more thoroughly with Mama Nit, and foot massage at Wat Pho and Loi Kroh. Annica studied Thai massage at other schools. They studied Zen Shiatsu with Sati (Oda) in a village outside Chiang Mai with a nice group of people.


Annica and Ralf traveled to South Korea and Japan, ate soups, sushi, the best nourishing food ever, bathed in onsen, watched waterfalls in Aomori, visited Sado island, Kyoto and Eihei-ji. In Tokyo, and in a temple near mount Fuji, they stayed with Hojo San, the great Zen master, singing karaoke with him and meeting geishas. For the last day of their trip Hojo San treated them to a room on the 20th floor of a luxurious hotel, and there they sat in the window pane gazing out over Tokyo, just like in the movie “Lost in Translation”.


In 2003, Ralf and Annica decided to move to the Swedish countryside, and they started the Thai massage business Mitt i Boda. Their first son was born and a year later their second son. These were fantastic years. So much love and happiness!


They opened another practice in Falun, and for several years Annica and Ralf studied Shiatsu. Ralf studied Shinzui Shiatsu at Shiatsu Akademien with teachers Philippe Vandenabeele and Lasse Stålnacke. A study which included basic Chi Nei Tsang, the importance of food, healing, balance, some Craniosacral therapy techniques and Traditional Chinese Medicine. He became a licensed Shiatsu therapist in accordance with the European Shiatsu Federation. With Itzhak Helman he completed a study in Advanced Thai massage. Ralf is incredibly thankful to his teachers for their instruction, and to all the people he has treated over the years.


Throughout the years Ralf became more and more aware that he has a gift of knowing what area to give attention to when he gives a physical treatment, and since 2014 he also offers Energy Healing and Distance Energy Healing, without touching the physical body. In 2012 he closed his businesses Mitt i Boda, and since then he gives treatments everywhere in the world. He loves giving treatments.


Ralf travels around the world, and envisions having or sharing a house in Fiji. He currently also writes a novel in Dutch. He speaks fluent English, Swedish, and Dutch.


In January 2020, for the second time, he did a silent meditation retreat at Dipabhāvan in the Koh Samui jungle, Thailand. So wonderful, so warm, walking silently with other people in front of the Buddha statue, and in the morning doing sitting meditation in a hall illuminated by candle light.


He then traveled to Samma Karuna on Koh Phangan where he had a life-changing experience. In just a few days he rediscovered in himself things he had forgotten: The joy of dancing. Love. New ways of breathing. About being a child. During this stay he met people who were open, loving, hugging, practicing yoga, meditating, who desired to expand, to learn, who showed their vulnerabilities, who cared, and who nourished their bodies with delicious vegetarian and vegan food.


Ralf is thankful for the work of people like Deepak Chopra and of scientists who study Quantum Physics. Recently, the writings of ancient traditions, the work of Healers throughout time, and modern physics all agree that everything IS energy, and anything can change, either by yourself (self healing, focus, visualization, attention and intention), or with the help of a Healer. This way everything is possible, anything can change and anything can be changed. It is beneficial if one is in a meditative state when working with Energy Healing, receiving it, or understanding how it works.


Ralf passionately believes that he is here to give great Healing Energy treatments to help you.



Worldwide


Ralf loves giving treatments all over in the world, wherever he is needed. He likes to travel and gives treatments year round.


Ideally the treatment structure is: You are a group who individually want to receive treatments or as a group all together. For individual treatments, your group has access to a nice quiet room with a thin mattress or futon on the floor, and some pillows. For Group Energy Healing, you should have a space large enough for everybody.


When Ralf travels to your group, he charges exact transportation costs from wherever he is in the world to where you are. For example, if your group is in India and he is in Thailand, he will ask your group to pay the one way ticket from Thailand to India. He appreciates meals and a place to sleep during the time he is with your group. Treatments are paid by each person in the group, “With the Heart”. (see 'Payment').


For Distance Energy Healing, the location of where you are and where Ralf is, at the moment you receive the treatment does not matter.


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